An Odd Sort of Comfort

Hey there, pretty people!

I hope you all realize that you're beautiful in your own way that society does not dictate.

Anywho.

So I just posted yesterday, but I felt compelled to blog again today. I kinda missed this.

I guess what I really want to talk about is life and love. Society tells us that our sole purpose on this world is to find love, and hopefully create children through said love. We are constantly told that we must find a life partner in the romantic sense, and if we cannot do that, we are considered failures.

This idea of romance and life-long love is outdated and over romanticized. Would I love to have someone to spend the rest of my life with? Yes. But I already have that. Ari and I were born together and we will die together, if not physically, then emotionally. Ideally, I want to find someone I can romance and love and call my wife, but I have to realize that it's not the end-all-be-all.

Another reason this idea is antiquated is because the mold requires children. In this day and age, reproducing is really not conducive to life. Not everyone should reproduce, because our planet simply can't handle it. We may need high birthrates to improve the economy, but we shouldn't require every couple to have children. Homosexual couples might want children, or they might not. I personally want children, and science has found a way for me to have biological children with my future wife. And what of older couples who find each other late in life? Is their love less pure and true because they don't have children?

This idea that we must find one person to spend the rest of our life with also excludes different sexualities. Aromantic people aren't attracted to people romantically. So while they may be sexually attracted to someone, they don't want to date them. Are they less human because they are wired to not want to be with anyone in the romantic sense? And what of asexuals? Are they less human because they aren't sexually attracted to anyone? They may find companionship, but they don't experience arousal and lust. Two things that humans, especially males, seem to cling to.

And what about twins? I have found a life partner (literally) in Ari. I look to them for comfort and honesty. But despite what some people like to think, there is absolutely no sexual or romantic attraction. Yet Ari is the one I trust most. I am an open book with them, as are they me. We can read each other so easily that most assume we have telepathy. Ari is my best friend. But since we are so close, people always insinuate things that disgust me to my very core.

So what does society think of our relationship? Well, most want twins to either be exactly the same, or completely different. Ari and I are neither. We are the same, but different. We're like chocolate and vanilla ice cream; different flavors, but the same basic components and structure. And people want us to either hate each other, or be secretly in love with each other. We are neither. Yes, at one point I was jealous, but I never hated my twin. I love Ari with everything I have. We are two parts of a soul, and realize how lucky we are to have each other. Of course we cherish that. There was a time when we didn't talk, and those were the worst years of my life. I never want to go back to a point when I don't talk to Ari every day. But this type of relationship isn't normal, and society likes to tell us that often.

I think this was just my little rant in lieu of having Ari to talk to. Sorry if I ruffled some feathers. I mean no offense, and I'm honestly really tired. Some of this might have been half-baked. But oh well. So long for now!